What would it look like if you stopped living for everyone else and started living for yourself?

Since stepping away from the inherent structure a controlled life necessitates, I’ve had to become more comfortable in the messy middle, where “success” isn’t so clearly defined. Although I’m thankful this self-discovery journey has broadened my perspective on “how to do life”, I simultaneously have to acknowledge there are aspects of my world that feel more challenging now. I constantly have to remind myself that the opposite of control is surrender – and some days that’s harder to embrace than others.

As I began showing up for myself more and more, things shifted. Yes, hard decisions were made, and yes, there was loss. But it also allowed for the new to enter, which included friends, opportunities, and growth that could not have happened otherwise. The reclaimed and more authentic me was energetically attracting more aligned matches.

A lot of people have asked me why I wrote Unwinding Perfect, and the truth is, I never set out to write this book. Instead, it poured out of me as a result of the unwinding of childhood patterning work.

As a working mom, guilt is rampant. It doesn’t matter what your position or title is, because ultimately, the mom role is the most important role you will ever have. When I decided to resign from my position as co-CEO, a whole host of emotions emerged and as I worked through them, I became more present. And ultimately a better mom.

I affectionately referred to our rental home that my kids and I lived in as the Tiny House. It was so small that the two bedrooms, bath, family room, kitchen and dining room could all be traversed in about 20 steps. The Tiny House wrapped me in its coziness like a warm blanket, and allowed me a safe place to land through all of my transition. In this safe space, I was able to do the necessary work to begin healing core wounds and learned childhood patterns.